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It Doesn’t Matter – Empath versus Narcissist
You want to leave now. It doesn’t matter. You want me to suffer. It doesn’t matter. You want revenge. It doesn’t matter. You go on smear campaigns. It doesn’t matter. You’re hurting. That matters. You’ve had trauma. That matters. You’ve been wronged. That matters. You don’t know how to get out of your own way.…
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Surviving Narcissism: Lessons for Empaths
A narcissist is defined as “a self-centered personality style. It is characterized by an excessive preoccupation with oneself and one’s own needs, often at the expense of others.” No single definition is sufficient to truly understand this personality. When personality identities are unclear, a clash between a narcissist and an empath can occur. This clash…
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The Real World
The quote, “It’s not what you look at that matters, it’s what you see,” by Henry David Thoreau, keeps popping in my head. We can look at the same thing, and interpret it in different ways. I’m sure you’ve heard the glass half empty, half full scenario. We can look at a situation and see…
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Anxiety Can Disguise Itself As Being Something to Fear
When things feel off, or we feel off, we’re taught to become more aware of our thoughts, or to stand guard at the portal of our minds. We are taught that sometimes all we need is to be more positive and have a little more gratitude. This is true and things can turn around rather…
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Going Back In My Shell
Any time I’m feeling drained, insecure or inadequate, I immediately go back in my shell. Some of you know what I mean when I say, going back in my shell, especially if you know me. You may have a shell too. It’s a safe place you go within yourself where you don’t want to talk…
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To Feel Secure
People are people. Most of the time we do whatever makes us feel secure. Some things make us feel secure that might scare other people to death — like doing new things or chasing dreams. Some things other people do might scare us to death. Sometimes we do things that offend others. Some things other…
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Did I Notice?
I woke up this morning. You did too if you’re reading this. What a wonderful gift! It’s the gift of a brand new day. Am I grateful for this gift? Did I notice my husband laying next to me? Did I notice my two dogs in bed with us? Did I notice the air was…
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The Other Side of Life’s Challenges
I may not see it. I may not feel it. I may not understand it…yet; but on the other side of my challenges I will see, feel, and understand more. Once the challenge subsides I will gain a greater perspective. Some challenges last days. Some last months. Some last years. As we carefully navigate through…
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Friends Who Left Imprints for a Lifetime: Kristy and Faunne
When I was 5 or 6 years old we moved to a new house across the street from Kristy. Perhaps childhood friends leave the strongest imprints since they are the first impressions and are the longest lasting memories. Kristy was my first best friend. Faunne moved in next door within a couple of years. I…
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I Give Up
Dammit, life is short. Almost 53 years of my own life have passed. 53 YEARS. Holding on to people or things that don’t give us life is really dumb. Why do I feel so damn guilty for the things I do, AND for things other people do? Seriously. When someone makes bad decisions, and they…
Lost and Finding Joy 